Sure, it sounds alluring to be in the arms of someone you once shared everything with. There will always be an inherent bond with an ex because of the shared history and familiarity. But is an ex encounter worth it? Is it possible for casual sex with an ex to remain just that? Here, 10 people share their thoughts on casual sex with an ex. And if you're struggling to get over an ex, be sure to check out our tried-and-true day Ex Detox.
For me, was the Year of the Dump. It was a time when I got back into the dating game by treating it as just that: a game. Flings happened and were then flung aside; only a few lasted longer than it takes me to get through a season of "How I Met Your Mother" on Netflix. There was Young Patrick, the year-old Congressional staffer for whom "selfish in bed" doesn't even begin to do justice: one month. Andy, the father of two who came in like a wrecking ball of neediness and misplaced ideas of what courtship post-divorce is supposed to look like.
Men of all ages and marriage lengths responded. Some were married too young and are now single again in their 30s. Some had been cheated on by their wives and felt broken and jaded. Some had been married since the s, and things fell apart when the kids left for college. It was all smart, useful and heartbreaking enough to pay it forward.
Tread carefully. The idea that you should get under someone new to get over an ex is BS. You have zero or limited trust in men. Your previous negative experiences with guys tend to affect how you behave in future relationships. If your ex destroyed your ability to trust and you decide to try the whole casual dating thing, this is only going to add to your existing issues.